I have been SO lucky to be able to read and review a wonderful book this month, and it has helped me change my thinking about parenting. Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes… in you and your kids! is a Christian parenting book by Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller. The whole premise of the book is to teach kids to change their hearts, not just their behavior by teaching them honor. The book teaches what honor is as well as how to teach it to your children.
Their simplified definition of Honor: Treating people as special, doing more than what’s expected, and having a good attitude.
Here are the topics covered in this book:
1. You’ll Never Be the Same
2. Honor Changes People
3. More Than Just Following Directions
4. Six Ways to Teach Honor to Children
5. A Deeper Look
6. Honor-Based Parenting
7. Honor One Another- Even Your Brothers and Sisters!
8. Helping Teens Through the “Tunnel Years”
9. The More You Give the Better it Gets
10. Catch the Vision
Appendix: Family Together Time Focused on Honor
This book talks about a distinction between respect and honor. Respect is an outward focus while honor is an internal focus coming from a love of God. Honor is more than just correcting behavior. It is learning to behave while also having your heart in the right place. Honor is what is going on beneath the surface. It is also more than just following directions and orders, but doing extra because you are thinking about others and how you can help them.
So how do we teach it to our kids? The books lists 6 different ways.
#1 Teach children to treat people as special
#2 Teach children to do more than what’s expected
#3 Deal with a bad attitude
#4 Create honor lessons in life
#5 Model it
#6 Appeal to conscience
What I loved about this book is the reminder of showing respect to my children while parenting. Honor goes both ways. There are times that I scold them without taking the time to teach and do it in an honoring way. children deserve respect as much as we do.
At the end of the book, in the appendix, they have 8 different planned family discussions and activities to teach these ideas to your children. I love the ideas given here. They make it so easy to teach this to your family.
This book is on sale on Amazon right now for $10.19 or 11.99 for the Kindle version. Right now, through the end of the month they are offering a special promotion to anyone who purchases the book. You will receive their Honor Multi-media Package ($59.95 value) for free. All you have to do is email a proof of your receipt to firstname.lastname@example.org. He will send you a coupon code to get this package for free! It includes: Lesson 1 on Video. MP3, Study Guide, and Kids Honor Club Children’s Program.